16 Feb, 2011

Control it!

For Kids, Self-Control Factors Into Future Success


Self-control keeps us from eating a whole bag of chips or from running up the credit card. A new study says that self-control makes the difference between getting a good job or going to jail — and we learn it in preschool.

"Children who had the greatest self-control in primary school and preschool ages were most likely to have fewer health problems when they reached their 30s," says Terrie Moffitt, a professor of psychology at Duke University and King's College London. ...

The researchers define self-control as having skills like conscientiousness, self-discipline and perseverance, as well as being able to consider the consequences of actions in making decisions.

The children who struggled with self-control as preschoolers were three times as likely to have problems as young adults. They were more prone to have a criminal record; more likely to be poor or have financial problems; and they were more likely to be single parents.

This study doesn't prove that the lack of self-control in childhood caused these problems, but the large size of the study, and the fact that it followed one group of people over many years, makes a good case for an effect.

... Moffitt says there is evidence that self-control can be learned.

"Identical twins are not identical on self-control," she says. "That tells us that it is something they have learned, not something they have inherited."

Article courtesy of NPR.

Picture courtesy of Google images.
Galatians 5: 22-24

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature

with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 

Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
What does God's Story Scripture teach us about Self-Control?

As children we are very impressionable. Some say we are shaped mentally & emotionally for the most part by age 5.  The key thought in this article is that Kids/Children can LEARN "Self-Control", "it is something they have learned, not something they have inherited" Its not and never will be to late to learn for you!

Time and time again people in the bible are learning lessons, and more lessons, some lessons are even taught over and over again. I think of the disciples and all the questions they had, and how many where young and untrained, yet Jesus chose to have them follow Him. God believed and still believes in them, and us that we might LEARN things like Self-control.

How can I connect today's God's Story Scripture to my life?

We have the ability to be LIFE LONG LEARNERS, meaning we have the great honor of continuing to learn more and more about how God's Story fits in our lives.  In fact the more we learn about God, the bigger He becomes. So the more you explore the more you will learn, God does not get trapped in a box of your expectations, or assumptions, but He becomes something you can trust in: His vast power, love, and ability to know what is best for you.

    * Look for people this week (that you know or strangers you can people watch) that display self-control. See how many different situations you can observe and ask yourself if you would do the same thing in the situation.

  • When you begin to get upset this week, practice self-control.
  • Ask God what areas of your life need more self-control, and ask Him to help you.
  • Are you "In Step with the spirit" Are there other fruits of the spirt that you feel God leading you to LEARN more about?
How can I connect God's Story Scripture & My Story to others lives?

 I am sure you have heard these verses many times if you have been to bible school, or sunday school, the fruits of the spirit are catchy & simple, yet deeply powerful if you let them be.

When I look at this picture above I imagine two seconds later the little girl is SCREAMING right back at the little boy! At least that is what most people might want to do.  One of the most powerful examples of your faith are your actions. Your friends are watching you, and Not showing Self-control can be a huge turn off to following God.

We may not have grown up learning self-control, give grace to your friends that do not show it, and set an example in your actions this week. Don't be the person that screams back, be the person that responds with gentleness and self-control.
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