16 Sep, 2010

Mad Enough to Kill

 Ky. gunman who killed 5, then self was enraged over how wife cooked breakfast
Angry Man Kills Over Eggs(

(Above) Friends and neighbors gather with J.D. Kilborn outside the trailer where Stanley Neace killed Kilborn's wife Tammy in Jacson, KY. 

Story and Photo courtesy of Associated Press

For months, Stanley Neace had shown increasing hostility to his neighbors in rural eastern Kentucky, to the point his landlord started eviction proceedings. Then he snapped over how his wife cooked his eggs, and killed her and four others with a shotgun before shooting himself.  Neighbors in the roadside mobile home park said Neace stormed across several lawns in his pajamas on Saturday and fired dozens of shots from a 12-gauge pump shotgun. When the rampage ended, Neace and his wife lay dead, along with the gunman's stepdaughter and three neighbors.

Sherri Anne Robinson, a relative of two of the victims, said witnesses to the shootings told her that Neace became enraged when his wife did not cook his breakfast to his liking.  "She tried to run to tell my family and he shot them too because they found out about it," she said.  The victims were identified as the gunman's wife, Sandra Neace, 54; her daughter Sandra R. Strong, 28; and neighbors Dennis Turner, 31; Teresa Fugate, 30; and Tammy Kilborn, 40.

"Over eggs?" Robinson said. "I thought that was crazy. Really. I mean just because his eggs weren't hot?" Landlord Ray Rastegar said he had begun the process of evicting Neace, who had lived in the trailer park for about seven years, because he had become more hostile toward neighbors in recent months. "He was unpredictable," Rastegar said. "Little things would set him off." 

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Ephesians 4:25-27 (ESV)  Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.  Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.

What does the Scripture from God's Story teach us about anger and how we control our emotions?

According to witnesses, the man in today's story was angry over how his wife cooked his eggs.  It doesn't matter what makes us angry, we can't allow our anger to lead us into sin.  Jesus even said that we weren't to go to bed angry, and to speak to one another with truth.  When we let our emotions control us, we are no longer in control.

 

How can we connect today’s God’s Story scripture to our lives?

  • God and Jesus have gotten angry.  We are formed in their likeness.
  • We should learn to settle disagreements quickly (before the sun goes down).
  • Just because we are angry, it doesn't give us the right to sin. 
  • We are to speak the truth to each other in love.

 I don't think I've ever been angry over eggs not done to my liking, but I do admit I have gotten pretty steamed over some petty things.  There have even been legitimate reasons that have caused me to be frustrated, but I've had to learn that I can't fly off the handle.  I can't let my emotions lead me down a sinful path.  I can't let my anger take over my life.  I must decide that I won't sin in the heat of those emotions.

It's not wrong to be angry. Jesus showed His human side of emotions in various ways, even anger.  Do you remember the story of Him overturning the money changers tables in the Temple?  (John 2:14-16) He was extremely angry but He did not sin. 

How can we connect today’s story, God’s Story scripture, and our story to
others?

  • Are you a hot tempered person?  Ask God to help you control your anger and not let it control you.
  • Ask the Lord for forgiveness when you have not acted or reacted in kindness, whether it's been when you have been angry or otherwise.
  • Don't wait to set things right with your family and friends when you've gotten mad.  Settle the issue - and quickly. Don't be afriad to say you're sorry.
  • Keep things in perspective.  
  • Pray.  Take a time-out to calm down.  Ask God to help you speak the truth in love. 
  • Recognize that many things lead to us experiencing bouts of anger (lack of sleep, sickness, stress, ect).  Take care of yourself physically so that you can be made well spiritually.
  • Try to be understanding of others when they get angry.  Listen to them and speak with gentleness and respect.  Your attitude and response can help diffuse a touchy situation.
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