22 Jul, 2010

Romantic Comedies Affecting Off-Screen Love Lives

 

Romantic comedies might provide 90 minutes of light-hearted fun but the happy-ever-after movies are also impacting people's real love lives, according to an Australian survey.

A poll of 1,000 Australians found almost half said rom-coms with their inevitable happy endings have ruined their view of an ideal relationship.

One in four Australians said they were now expected to know what their partner was thinking while one in five respondents said it made their partners expect gifts and flowers 'just because'.

"It seems our love of rom-coms is turning us into a nation of "happy-ever-after addicts." Yet the warm and fuzzy feeling they provide can adversely influence our view of real relationships," said Australian relationship counselor, Gabrielle Morrissey.

"Real relationships take work and true love requires more than fireworks."

The survey was released by Warner Home Video to mark the movie "Valentine's Day" going to DVD.

Story and photo taken from: http://www.reuters.com

Read: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seekin, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I don't think we can ever get enough of 1 Corinthians chapter 13 - the "love" chapter. Even those who don't know Christ believe that love is what makes the world go around. The question often remains, however, "What is love?"

I don't think today's news story is any real surprise. Our culture is flooded with movies and songs about love. It is so easy to be persuaded that a particular song and/or movie is the key to how to do it. Right now we have the Twilight series displaying the power of love even over supernatural beings. Believe it or not I watched The Sound of Music last night for the first time and was captivated by the music and love story portrayed there. These images are hard to get out of our minds. They can be inspiring for sure, but the question for those that follow Christ still remains - is this God's love or an imitation?

God's love is patient. Are we waiting on God's or pushing through with our own desires? God's love isn't envious of other people's stuff. Am I listening? It is so easy to think we don't have enough when we look around at those we think do (Celebrity Cribs?!). God's love does not brag. We are comfortable just being a child of God. We are proud of that! God's love is not rude. Why do I need the best parking spot or the first spot in line and force my way in there? God's love is not easily angered and doesn't keep track of all the negative things about our life and other people. Enough said! God's love does not delight in evil. This is a tough one. There are many things masquerading around that appear good but are evil. Jersey Shore anyone? God's love always protects the reputation of others. It always trusts God for everything good in life. It looks forward to a future with God as opposed to just the here and now. God's love keeps getting up even when we fall down and struggles to keep faith even when life sucks.

The love chapter huh? I can't imagine anything more difficult. In the words of the famous Christian, G.K. Chesterton: "The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried."

Whether we are in a romantic relationship or just trying to figure out how to love friends and family, may we keep trying God's way even though it is difficult.

What is your defintion of love? How does it compare to God's definition in 1 Corinthians 13? What is your definition of romance? If you're in a romantic relationship does it reflect the godly characteristics listed above? Whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, pick out two qualities of God's love listed above that you can (with God's help) work on this week.

No doubt there are many people around you today that are in romantic relationships (both Christian and non-Christian). Starting today, pray for your Christian friends in that the model of God's love in 1 Cor. 13 would flow throughout their relationship. For your non-Christian friends, pray that God would give you windows of opportunity to share what His love looks like. This is especially effective for those who seem to always be having tons of drama.

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